Closet Gems: From K-Dramas to Kingdom Focus - 21 Day Fast - Faith, Words, Consistency

As we step into a new year, I’ve been doing some reflecting. You know the kind—praying, journaling, sipping coffee, and occasionally giving yourself a very honest side-eye. And out of all that reflection, one word keeps showing up for me:

Consistency.

Whew Child. That word sounds good in theory...until I start negotiating with myself about showing up again the next day. Y'all know what I mean right Ladies? The gym for instance. Ummmhmmm, I knew y'all understood where I was coming from!

That word and I have a complicated relationship.

I don’t fully know why consistency feels so hard for me. I’m sure there’s some deeper soul work there that I’ll unpack one day. But what I do know is this: I don’t have to figure out the “why” before I take the next faithful step.

My God can help me. 

And I trust Him to do just that!

Christmas, Sacrifice, and a Question I Can’t Ignore

This Christmas season has had me thinking a lot about sacrifice—the sacrifice made for me. And it’s led me to ask myself a very honest question:

What can I sacrifice to grow more consistent in my faith journey—and how can I share it with my sisters in Christ?

It turns out that God wasn't even asking me for a big sacrifice, just the thing I keep choosing when I use the excuse of "I don't have time."

Scripture reminds us:

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” — Proverbs 18:21

And I’ve been realizing lately that what we say and how we spend our time are often telling the same story.

Yes… My Daughter and K-Dramas Are Part of This Story

Now let’s talk about how we got here.

My daughter introduced me to K-Dramas. She’s also into K-Pop, so clearly I was going to be influenced at some point. And honestly—shout out to Korean culture for absolutely doing their thing in the entertainment industry. The storytelling? The emotion? The production?

Top tier.

But I digress. Because this blog is not about K-Dramas. (Even though it kind of is.)

I like them because there’s less cursing, less sex, and still all the drama and romance and plot twists my heart enjoys. I’m currently in the middle of two really good ones on Netflix, and I would highly recommend them—but I’m not naming names because that’s how my focus got shifted in the first place. Boundaries, friends. Boundaries. LOL

Somewhere along the way, I realized something important: even good distractions can pull us away from God when we’re not paying attention. And while I wasn’t saying I didn’t have more time for God, my habits were quietly saying it for me.

Consistency That’s Already Changing Me

Here’s the part that really made me pause.

I have been consistent in one area: reading God’s Word every single morning. I’m currently in the book of Psalms, and let me tell you—I’ve noticed a shift. My relationship with God feels stronger. More personal. More grounded. I've said this before but this is my very first time reading the entire bible. At the age of 52. It seems weird to say but of course I have read scriptures and passages and even completed several whole bible studies on entire books of the bible. But the whole thing. Nope! Never....this is the first time cover to cover. And it feels amazing.

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105

And you know what...that consistency has produced increase in my life. You know how in one area you can be doing something great. And then wonder…

What else could grow if I consistently gave my attention to it? Or better yet—because the timing of the 21 Day connect at church is coming up....what could grow if I consistently removed something and gave that time back to God?

Why This Upcoming Fast Feels Different

Our church does a corporate fast every year, and I’ve done smaller fasts on my own throughout the year too. But this one? This one is hitting differently.

Because this time, I’m not just fasting to reset my relationship with God—I’m fasting because I feel called to share what I’m learning with a community of faith-filled women.

Fasting isn’t just about giving something up. It’s about making room.

“If you say to this mountain, ‘Move,’ it will move.” — Matthew 17:20

Faith moves mountains—but faith is also built through intentional focus, and yes… through the words we speak over our lives.

Words Matter—and So Does Community

I’m joining my church’s 21-Day Connect, which centers on understanding the power of our words. Because what we speak over our bodies, our purpose, our future, and our faith matters.

“Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story.” — Psalm 107:2

And I know I’m not the only woman navigating midlife questions:

• Empty nesting

• Starting over professionally

• Menopause or perimenopause (a mountain all by itself)

• Identity shifts that make you ask, “Who am I now?”

I want to walk boldly as the woman God is calling me to be—and I know that requires consistency. Not perfection. Just consistently showing up.

Why I’m Showing Up for 21 Days Straight

That’s why I’m committing to 21 days of no K-dramas but instead filming and posting on YouTube—short, honest reflections rooted in faith, words, and real life.

This reset will:

1. Shift my focus from distraction to devotion

2. Help me understand more deeply who I am in Christ

3. Strengthen my belief that I can follow through

4. Create space for other women walking through change

“Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” — Romans 10:17

Sometimes we need to hear truth daily until it finally settles in our spirit. Me sitting in my space, talking through my faith walk to a camera is going to be spiritual therapy.

Walking Together, Not Performing Faith

I’m sharing this not because I have it all together—but because I believe faith was never meant to be a solo journey. That is the reason behind Kiya's Closet. I know I'm not the only woman who hit a certain age and said, okay what now? I can't be the only child of God who thought, Lord where are you? I know I'm not alone in my journey for deeper faith and relationship with God. Kiya's Closet isn't just for me, it's for us to learn, grow and walk boldy together Sis!

If consistency is a struggle for you…If your words haven’t been matching your hopes…If you’re ready to move some mountains—one faithful step at a time…

Come walk with me.

I’ll be sharing daily reflections on YouTube for at least 21 days straight during this upcoming fast beginning on January 5th. No perfection required y'all so please don't judge. This is just my presence, my honesty, and my faith showing up for my community.

This year, I’m choosing consistency—not because I’m strong enough, but because God’s Word is powerful enough to change everything.

And that feels like the best place to begin.